Hollywood Stars and their fetishes!!
Egos play an enormous part in Hollywood makeup, after all those people really need to play themselves to the hilt and it takes a lot of Ego energy to keep on doing that. It can also cause marital problems when one half of the couple is getting more recognition than the other.
Check out if this applies in your marriage!
Take Kate Winslet and her divorced hubby, Jim Threapleton, whose Masculine Ego just didn’t like being Mr. Winslet – walking in the shadow of his famous ex-lady.
Who in your marriage wears the pants and how does that affect your relationship?
Then there is the case of Julie Roberts and Benjamin Bratt. She obviously adored him but the Bratt got into a Big Ego thing hanging on to the arm of this mega Academy Award winning actress.
Does jealousy crop up in your marriage...
Elisabeth Taylor’s Ego knew no bounds. Whatever she wanted she took – from Michael Wilding to Eddie Fisher to Richard Burton with a splattering of husbands in between! It takes a lot of Ego energy to do that!
Are you responsible for breaking up another’s relationship and what caused you to do this?
Kim Basinger goes one step further saying that she prefers to work with actors and filmmakers she respects and can have fun with (rather difficult for Big Egos). She just doesn’t want to work with people with Big Egos again, unless they check them at the door!
Have you ever found that people you would really like to be with give you the cold shoulder even though you look good and smell good…but do you act good?
Check out if this applies in your marriage!
Take Kate Winslet and her divorced hubby, Jim Threapleton, whose Masculine Ego just didn’t like being Mr. Winslet – walking in the shadow of his famous ex-lady.
Who in your marriage wears the pants and how does that affect your relationship?
Then there is the case of Julie Roberts and Benjamin Bratt. She obviously adored him but the Bratt got into a Big Ego thing hanging on to the arm of this mega Academy Award winning actress.
Does jealousy crop up in your marriage...
Elisabeth Taylor’s Ego knew no bounds. Whatever she wanted she took – from Michael Wilding to Eddie Fisher to Richard Burton with a splattering of husbands in between! It takes a lot of Ego energy to do that!
Are you responsible for breaking up another’s relationship and what caused you to do this?
Kim Basinger goes one step further saying that she prefers to work with actors and filmmakers she respects and can have fun with (rather difficult for Big Egos). She just doesn’t want to work with people with Big Egos again, unless they check them at the door!
Have you ever found that people you would really like to be with give you the cold shoulder even though you look good and smell good…but do you act good?
The Structure of the Ego in the Human Consciousness
Contrary to popular belief the Ego is very important - without it we would have no motivation to go out into the world.Ego is a structure of the human consciousness and we can use it as a tool to propel us forward to do things. It can be used as an implement when we need to achieve something in the world but you don’t have to go overboard. Just put it down when success is reached.
Ego Structures and how to use them to your Advantage
You might find yourself in some of the following but always remember it is up to you to recognize your Ego structure and make it work for you.
The Positive Ego says, “I will succeed, I will do a good job and make this work” whereas the Negative Ego says, “I cannot do it, you cannot do it, so to hell with it!” Another Negative Ego formation is when you become discouraged because you allow someone with a bigger Ego to put you down and walk all over you. In instances like this, you can assert your own Ego structure and stand up for yourself.
Then there is the Small Ego that looks at a pile of work to be done and says, “I cannot possibly do all this - it’s too much for me to do!” and is defeated before even taking the first step. Using this Small Ego in a positive way would be to do one thing at a time, to accomplish step by step.
Big Ego people will take on too much and probably not do too good a job at it, a rather sloppy one in fact. (So how many of you have I nailed already!).
The Role of the Ego in Relationships
The Ego plays an important role in the relationship between a man and a woman. It affects the ways each one acts and reacts. It is a tool that can be used to help, hinder and sometimes hurt others.
Let’s take the Big Ego man or woman. In their relationships, they rule the roost and whatever they say is law, whatever they want done must be done immediately and they are the proverbial ‘know it all’. But often hiding behind this ‘brash’ exterior, they are crying to be loved, or may be they have been hurt and have built walls as a protection around themselves and the only way to be is ‘in control’. Of course, walls prevent them ‘getting out’ just as much as others ‘getting in’. They are often braggarts inflated with their own Ego but that ‘hot air’ is easy to deflate, just prick at their vanity - the way they look, the cars they drive, the people they mix with. Hollywood is full of people like this!
The Small Ego man or woman will let their partners ‘walk all over them’. They will allow them to say and do things that upset and discourage, and take all this ‘lying down’. They are the wimps of the world who say ‘beat me, hurt me, do whatever you want to me, I’m just not worthwhile’. They give in because they feel that others will like them more if they do so. When they do this, however, they feel irritated and annoyed for ‘letting themselves down’.
The Small Ego person would feel so much better if they said, “You cannot do this anymore, from now on I will do things the way that works for me”. They assert their Ego and use it in a Positive expression.
Let’s take the Big Ego man or woman. In their relationships, they rule the roost and whatever they say is law, whatever they want done must be done immediately and they are the proverbial ‘know it all’. But often hiding behind this ‘brash’ exterior, they are crying to be loved, or may be they have been hurt and have built walls as a protection around themselves and the only way to be is ‘in control’. Of course, walls prevent them ‘getting out’ just as much as others ‘getting in’. They are often braggarts inflated with their own Ego but that ‘hot air’ is easy to deflate, just prick at their vanity - the way they look, the cars they drive, the people they mix with. Hollywood is full of people like this!
The Small Ego man or woman will let their partners ‘walk all over them’. They will allow them to say and do things that upset and discourage, and take all this ‘lying down’. They are the wimps of the world who say ‘beat me, hurt me, do whatever you want to me, I’m just not worthwhile’. They give in because they feel that others will like them more if they do so. When they do this, however, they feel irritated and annoyed for ‘letting themselves down’.
The Small Ego person would feel so much better if they said, “You cannot do this anymore, from now on I will do things the way that works for me”. They assert their Ego and use it in a Positive expression.
Asserting One's Consciousness without Inflicting on Others
There are many subtle ways to assert one’s consciousness without inflicting upon others. However, most people fall into the crystallized pattern of “what will they think of me if I don’t do what they want…maybe they won’t like (or love) me anymore”. Then the Small Ego person enters into patterns of doubt and despair, and goes ahead and does what they really don’t want to do.
Within the Positive Ego structure, you can reach a point where you will feel secure enough inside that it no longer matters what others say or think about you. To reach this place you need to focus on the strength and loving that is within you - to assert your self authority, declare your ‘ten acres’, and build a strength of consciousness.
Once again Doing does It....
Within the Positive Ego structure, you can reach a point where you will feel secure enough inside that it no longer matters what others say or think about you. To reach this place you need to focus on the strength and loving that is within you - to assert your self authority, declare your ‘ten acres’, and build a strength of consciousness.
Once again Doing does It....
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