Bonds are are made in Heaven... So are Our Marriages...!!!
The institution of marriage and the taboos attached with it in deep down conventional Indian society has always captured my attention since childhood. There is a belief in our society - "marriages our made in heaven... " and so every individual reaching a defined age is supposed to get married and that's how the settlement comes into your life. In the society, the last duty that the parents would want to perform from their end would be getting their children settled. Now, how do they do it ? A very simple answer - "finding perfect grooms/bride for their children and getting them married, leading to settlement.." after that their children is supposed to start life on their own. If a child really wants to delay marriage because he/she wants to study further or believes he/she is still not mentally prepared to go for it.. then that person is mentally forced or convinced day and night to get married and settle in life. The belief says getting your children married at the right age and time is very important living in the society else society comment "Parents don't even have the guts to get their children settled or don't want to do it because their children are getting money earned for them especially if it happens to be a Girl Child."
Second important thing attached with this institution of marriage is, exchange between the bride and groom's family in terms of money or any materialistic asset for eg. a house/car, etc. This exchange is most important in the terms that it talks about the ego of groom's family. So, if things offered or the arrangements made by the bride's family are not as per the standards expected surely an argument is bound to happen. This exchange may later even hurt the girl (especially if it happens to be a love marriage as they are still not 100% acceptable)entering the family as she would be cursed on regularly for the things that went wrong or the due respect not paid and the list is on...
The concern here is, when we are running in this 21st century does these two points touched above really matter or can we come out of this social stigma and let our children breathe free. When we talk about technology, adopting brands, going on higher standards of living, broadened mindsets, can we come out of all this and just respect the people who are making a new beginning, let them have their spaces, build their own lives and just work upon as they want to move, because marriage is not the end of life or its not settlement or its just not materialistic exchange rather its a beginning of new life, a new journey where two different individuals get together to share the bond of togetherness till eternity. Its all about Purity, Being United and Loving each other till the beautiful horizon comes to an end.
Let the Love begin, let it happen... let's not break the purity of it by being an obstacle on the way... Let it just flow... !!!
Second important thing attached with this institution of marriage is, exchange between the bride and groom's family in terms of money or any materialistic asset for eg. a house/car, etc. This exchange is most important in the terms that it talks about the ego of groom's family. So, if things offered or the arrangements made by the bride's family are not as per the standards expected surely an argument is bound to happen. This exchange may later even hurt the girl (especially if it happens to be a love marriage as they are still not 100% acceptable)entering the family as she would be cursed on regularly for the things that went wrong or the due respect not paid and the list is on...
The concern here is, when we are running in this 21st century does these two points touched above really matter or can we come out of this social stigma and let our children breathe free. When we talk about technology, adopting brands, going on higher standards of living, broadened mindsets, can we come out of all this and just respect the people who are making a new beginning, let them have their spaces, build their own lives and just work upon as they want to move, because marriage is not the end of life or its not settlement or its just not materialistic exchange rather its a beginning of new life, a new journey where two different individuals get together to share the bond of togetherness till eternity. Its all about Purity, Being United and Loving each other till the beautiful horizon comes to an end.
Let the Love begin, let it happen... let's not break the purity of it by being an obstacle on the way... Let it just flow... !!!
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